A couple of weeks ago I started my “mini-series” looking at Oscar Wilde’s quote: “The two most important days in your life are the day you were born and the day you realized “why”. If you missed the first installment you can read it here: http://bit.ly/1dJFpbA
More thoughts on “Finding Your Why”:
Day 3: If you had a challenging time tapping into how you really feel, try asking yourself questions about a particular situation, like, “What could I do to make myself feel better? Or “What do I need that I don’t have?” Being able to find how how you feel is the key to finding your destiny.
Day 4: Once you have identified your feelings, on to the next step: Accepting those feelings. Without any judgment, honor any feeling that may arise. Don’t let the “drunken monkey” talk you out of that feeling, telling you that ” a GOOD girl wouldn’t feel angry” or a REAL man wouldn’t be sad”, or a MATURE person wouldn’t be jealous”.
Just be open without any preconceived judgments to that feeling. Merely observe, “oh, that’s interesting”. Don’t try to make the feeling go away. Instead see if you can trace where that feeling may show up in your physical body. When you feel restless, guilty, or sad, does your stomach knot up or do you get muscle tension in your shoulders, or maybe a headache. Now you are really doing the work.
Day 5: Another helpful way to ACCEPT (and not beat yourself up over something that you SHOULDN’T feel) is to take the emotions ot of it by looking at the situation as a “witness” not a “participant”.
Step outside yourself and observe, as if this were happening to someone else. You will probably be more forgiving and compasionate with others than you are with yourself.
As a “witness” you are safe and able to be more objective about the whole situation. So when you get a twinge of painful emotion, try being the “witness”.
This is the second of a 4 part series centered around how to find your destiny. Just “why” you are on this earth. More later.
Here’s your “guilt-free” tip of the week: Try not to “split” the world into black or white, right or wrong. Lose the judgment of yourself and others. Kick the guilt.
