Spiritually Speaking: How Could You Have ‘Phone Guilt’?

 In the big picture of spiritual development, what good could a telemarketer be? Reaching for the phone, I hastened my pace hurling the bags of food onto the counter as if I could qualify for the sprint races in the Olympic games.   Breathlessly I greeted with a pleasant, “Hello”. My spirits fell as the delayed response on the other end tipped me off that it must me a telemarketer.  Annoyed, I waited for his inquiry, “Mrs. Koogatack?”  The mispronunciation was the dead give-away – this total stranger was trying to sell me something. He continued,”And how are you today?”  “I am just fine”, I replied curtly knowing that didn’t REALLY care about me.  What should I do?  I could mime my friend who responded to a “carpet cleaning special in your area” call by telling the caller that she had carpets in need of cleaning and if he could just hold on the the line she would measure her living room giving him the total square footage.  She proceeded to set the phone on the counter and continued with her day, leaving the would-be phone salesman “laying-in-wait”, thus tying up the phone line. I usually try to be polite and respond with, “I’m not interested, but thanks anyway,” and hang up.  In a “how to handle telemarketers discussion” my friend asked me “why do you thank them for interrupting your day?”  She did have a valid point and I was annoyed and disrupted but the little pang of guilt would nag at me long after the disconnection of the phone line. I opted to follow the golden rule:...

More on “Finding Your Why” – Part 2

A couple of weeks ago I started my “mini-series” looking at Oscar Wilde’s quote:  “The two most important days in your life are the day you were born and the day you realized “why”.  If you missed the first installment you can read it here:  http://bit.ly/1dJFpbA More thoughts on  “Finding Your Why”: Day 3:  If you had a challenging time tapping into how you really feel, try asking yourself questions about a particular situation, like, “What could I do to make myself feel better? Or “What do I need that I don’t have?”  Being able to find how how you feel is the key to finding your destiny. Day 4:  Once you have identified your feelings, on to the next step:  Accepting those feelings.  Without any judgment, honor any feeling that may arise.  Don’t let the “drunken monkey” talk you out of that feeling, telling you that ” a GOOD girl wouldn’t feel angry” or a REAL man wouldn’t be sad”, or a MATURE person wouldn’t be jealous”. Just be open without any preconceived judgments to that feeling.  Merely observe, “oh, that’s interesting”.  Don’t try to make the feeling go away.  Instead see if you can trace where that feeling may show up in your physical body.  When you feel restless, guilty, or sad, does your stomach knot up or do you get muscle tension in your shoulders, or maybe a headache.  Now you are really doing the work. Day 5:  Another helpful way to ACCEPT (and not beat yourself up over something that you SHOULDN’T feel) is to take the emotions ot of it by looking at the...

Get Your Free Prequel,”The Making of a Guilt Sponge” Here

“WHAT were you thinking?” is one of the most frequently asked questions I hear.   How does a normal fun-loving teenager find her way into a convent in the 1960 to take the vows of poverty, chastity, and obedience?  What factors went into that “tide-turning” decision? This Prequel, “The Making of a Guilt Sponge” answers those questions.  This is the original first seven chapters of the award winner, “A Change of Habit”.   These chapters set the stage explaining the high school years that led to my entering the convent.  One copy editor wanted an exciting beginning with Chapter 1 starting the day that I walked through the convent doors, leaving this background information on the cutting room floor.  I think this Prequel is important to show just how these “guilt trips” work in our everyday lives, sometimes taking us on unwanted destinations.This prequel will answer the question that always get asked,  “WHAT were you thinking?” Enjoy the “outtakes”, the original first 7 chapters of “A Change of Habit”. Since you are my most treasured readers this Prequel is your FREE.  Here is the link to download your FREE ebook. http://bit.ly/1dkUroa If you have friends that would like also like a FREE copy, they can go to my new website, PattyKogutek.com and sign up for their FREE copy.  Please don’t give them your special link or you will have a guilt attack when you try to give it away. Guilt-Free Tip of the Week:  Don’t blame yourself for everything that happens to you.  Everything is NOT your fault.  Replace that critical thinking with a healthy separation of outcomes. Living the Dream,...

“Why Me?”

In a fit of frustration we have all probably cried out “Why me?”.  Small inquisitive children badger ceaselessly “why”?  Oscar Wilde wrote that the two most important days of your life are the day your were born and the day you realize “WHY”. Why? Why? Why?  A most important question.  Do you know “why” you are here?  How do you find out this very imperative answer? I answered these questions on my Patty Kogutek – Author Facebook page in a “mini series” format.  Judging from the most positive responses, I’m not the only one interesting in finding out why I am here.  I know not everyone of you got a chance to read the posts so I am going to let you peek into my diary as I work through this question.  For my next few blogs I will be discussing “why”….. Day 1:  I believe that my life destiny is encoded in my Soul – that Divine part of me.  It’s my lifetime mission to “listen” by feeling the Divine leading me to my path’s destiny. I had a difficult time “listening” because I was “clogged”, blocking the flow of energy in efforts to please others rather than to listen within. We need to open up to the Spirit who is directing us every day by our feelings and emotions.  We we are truly happy, following our destiny, there we will find happiness. There we find WHY. Day 2:  To find out “why” you were born you nave to “listen and feel” your way through life, reading all the emotional signage along your way.  How? First step:  Get out...

Good News For Guilt Sponges

Sister Mary Vodka to the rescue! Are you burdened with the pangs and pains of guilt:  the fear of failure, the stress of not being “good enough” and missing the mark of perfection that you seek. I have recorded a 25 minute guided meditation to help you identify and release your guilt.  In this mediation session you will unwind into a deep relaxation to wash away the burdens of guilt that have stained and strained your happiness.  In  this state of relaxation you will make a deep connection with your own worthiness, letting go of guilt, remorse, and regret.  Forgiveness, self-love, and discovering the joy within will be yours after working with this meditation tool. Here is the link to the website where you can order it.  Where else could you get such a deal for under $10.00? http://kunaki.com/sales.asp?PID=PX00GOHI8L P.S. This picture is not the cover of the CD.  It came in 2nd place…. Guilt Free Tip of the Week:   It is impossible to delight in anything if you are tied up in knots with worry and guilt.  Guilt is a joy-robber.  Try to listen to the Wisdom Within and kick the guilt....

Guilt Attack in the Parking Lot

The sign in the parking lot read “Customer Parking only”.  I had an appointment in the office around the corner from the shopping center with street parking being the only available space for my car.  My business was not quite in the shopping center and I was not quite a “customer” and not strictly qualified for “customer parking only”!  Hence the “guilt attack”that set in as I excited my “illegally” parked car.  The one thing my spiritual upbringing drilled into me was following the rules made for peaceful sailing. Wanting to ease my guilty conscience, I came up with the only lawful solution:  I became a “customer”.  I quickly went into the beauty supply and bought 3  unneeded products to qualify for my parking space.  (If 1 item was good then 3 purchases ought to really seal my innocence) I breathed a sigh of relief, fulling the letter of the law.  My spiritual awareness threw out the “spirit of the law”, but by damn I was a paying customer now and could park there “guilt-free”. Good thing a guilt sponge like me is always 10 minutes early for an appointment because I made it to my scheduled meeting on time.  If I was late that would be a different pang of guilt.  Oh, the life of a guilt sponge. Guilt Free Tip of the Week:  Embrace the feeling of calm.  Don’t feel stressed and over anxious with the “musts” and “shoulds” of life.  Breathe in and relax knowing all is well. Watch for the Prequel of “A Change of Habit”.  This ebook is the “out-take” of the first seven...