We are constantly concerned about “fitting in”, presenting an image that projects healthy families, successful undertakings, and kind hearts. But oftentimes these are illusions that we chase. Truth be known, we are all struggling with the human condition of “not quite perfect”.
In reality we spend a great deal of time and energy struggling with secrets of not meeting the “norm”. We bury deep secrets of children who disappoint, unemployment issues, feelings of shame, guilt or jealousy. But these are just feelings we encounter operating as a “human”.
In last week’s blog I shared my worrisome thoughts (people usually don’t share their “worry,” afraid to appear weak, don’t want to complain, etc.) about our beautiful home in Montana. I wrote about that in spite of costly improvements and numerous price reductions, we still have not entertained an offer.
Is there something wrong with us? Is there something wrong with our house? These troublesome questions of inadequacies plague us when things don’t “appear” normal. So I took to my computer and relayed my personal “house problem” in my blog, hoping that it wasn’t too much of a “downer”.
Your quick responses surprised me. While reading the comments and emails I received, I realized that I was not the only one battling this disappointment. “AHA”! So many of you wrote sharing your financial concerns, personal hardships, and family pressures you are experiencing with your situations.
I felt somewhat lighter knowing that I had comrades with me, supporting me with understanding and compassion. Somehow I felt lighter, relieved to know that I was not alone in dealing with doubts and worry.
When the veil of secrecy is dropped, and the “perfect life” façade disappears we find amazing connections with each other. We all share similarities of longings, desires, struggles and failures.
We usually don’t share these “concerns” because we don’t want to be criticized, judged, or appear weak. Why are we embarrassed by our human traits?
Our lives are made up of light and dark. So don’t be embarrassed by life itself. Things don’t always go according to our plans, desires, or we aren’t the people that we want to be. Sometimes we can be unkind, mopey, or angry. We are all vulnerable and insecure. It’s all part of the journey.
There is nothing “wrong” with us. We are human and in order to be happy we need to accept our situations and ourselves. When we open our hearts to others, and ourselves we see things differently. There is a great power within, recognizing that we are here with and for each other.
Let’s put down the burden of seeking perfection and open up to a wonderful secret: Shhhh..WE ARE ALL HUMAN!
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When have you felt supported by sharing your “secrets”? Please share and comment below.
