Are You Using Your Power of Positivity?

Are You Using Your Power of Positivity?

Change your thoughts…change the world! Thoughts are powerful….for the good or not so good. Your thoughts affect your everyday life…how you care for yourself, what you do with your hours during day, how you speak, etc. Your thoughts affect not only you, but others around you. You can almost feel a person with a negative attitude. Sometimes they don’t even have to speak to know they carry negative vibes or bad mojo. You don’t have to be a physic to know someone’s in a bad mood. People will shy away from someone putting out negative energy. We find it draining to be around some of these people who suck the life energy right out of us. On the other hand, people will be attracted to the person radiating positivity. Many friends will surround the “fun person” who brings light and laughter to them. These people share joy and uplift everyone else. What you put out will return to you for better or worse. It’s in our power to change our attitudes bringing up as much joy as possible in this lifetime. And it all starts within. Think beautiful thoughts and the world will be beautiful. What can we do? Where do we start? Count your blessings. Instead of being focus on the body parts that don’t work as well as they used to. Say a prayer of thanksgiving for those parts that are still serving you. Change you mindset: Pretend you are writing a column for your local newspaper entitled, “My Life Through Rose Colored Glasses”. Look for the silver lining in every situation Get up and get moving:...
Do Sister Mary Vodka and Pope Francis Have Anything in Common When It Comes To Happiness?

Do Sister Mary Vodka and Pope Francis Have Anything in Common When It Comes To Happiness?

Sister Mary Vodka and Pope Francis team up with their tips for happiness. In last week’s blog post I shared the “gratitude jar” strategy with you in order to promote happiness. I found that this daily routine: -builds positivity, – sets up the unconscious mind for a “grateful” nights sleep, pushing worry aside, and -acts as a visual reminder to stay positive. Although Pope Francis did not list Sister Mary Vodka’s gratitude jar in his top ten, I bet he would agree. Thought you might enjoy what Pope Francis gave as his top 10 pieces of advice to happiness. As reported by “Viva” Argentine Weekly Press July 2014 (Translated by Catholic News Service) Contrary to David Letterman’s top 10, I’m going to start with #1:      The English equivalent of “live and let live”. Move forward and let others do the same.     “Be giving of yourself to others.”     “Proceed calmly” in life      A healthy sense of leisure. Turn off TV to communicate   with family members during meals      Sundays should be holidays. “Sunday is for family”.      Need to be creative in putting young people to work so     they will not turn to drugs.     Respect and care for the environment.      Stop being negative.      Don’t proselytize, respect others’ beliefs. Work for peace. Peace is not quiet, peace is always proactive and dynamic. Pope Francis indeed provides a breath of fresh air to rethinking happiness for many of us. His open embracing of diversity will certainly reach out from behind the Church doors. Acceptance and love of yourself, family and others resonates with a sure road to happiness. Perhaps some little known facts about...
How to Put the Happy in this New Year

How to Put the Happy in this New Year

We think when we are happy then we will be grateful; but it works just the opposite. We need to surround ourselves in gratitude and then we will find happiness. I’ll demonstrate. When I first read about making a “Gratitude Jar” on Facebook, I smiled thinking “how cute”, kind of elementary to those of us who consider ourselves already living in evident abundance. But even with my skepticism I decided to try it because I know that you can never have too much gratitude. The grateful jar consists of a large jar (I used a tall iris flower vase with a beautiful black and white bow.) Each morning I take 3 small pieces of paper (I use sticky notes) jotting down one thing that I am grateful for from the previous day. My sticky notes document the daily blessings that I’m certainly aware of, but have gone unnoticed in my hurriedness.  I fill my vase with wonderful memories that I would like to remember, funny moments that made me laugh, beauty in nature that I notice on my walks, maybe an accomplishment, a small success, a note from a friend, or a treasured surprise. Now, granted I’ve only been at this for a week but I found amazing results. First of all I find myself looking for things to be grateful for during the day. This has put me in a positive frame of mind looking for the “good”, building positivity. Secondly, when I put my head on my pillow at night I reflect on the day pondering on what 3 blessings I will write down the next morning. ...
3 “Musts” for your New Year’s List

3 “Musts” for your New Year’s List

As the year winds down, we usually take a quick inventory reflecting on our lives to see where there is room for improvement. With pen in hand we quickly make resolutions to reach some “ideal” in the New Year. Society, also dumps a burden on us to “better ourselves” with resolve, as we are bombarded with the high expectations from our culture. Magazines, conversations, and advertisements all focus on the high stakes of expectations. We are flooded with the coveted prize of the “perfect family”, the “man of my dreams”, the “gifted child”, or the “ideal weight”. We all want to improve but what happens if we don’t lose those 10 pounds, or our child is less than perfect, or we miss the mark of that daily exercise routine? In reality, false expectations can get us in big trouble. Looking for the “ideal” can break our hearts and kill our hope. Not to mention the pangs of guilt. We all have had the feeling of dashed hope and shattered expectations. No matter what area of life we look at, we all have the experience of having reality fall short of certain expectations. Sometimes they fall so short that we may feel abandoned or betrayed. We may call out, “God, where are you?” God never promised to keep us out of pain or adversity. But we know that Spirit has a “plan” and will see us through our doubt. So as we make our way into this New Year let’s remember these 3 sure fire ways to find peace and happiness in 2015. Let’s never lose faith, knowing that all...
SURPRISING WORDS FROM MY DOCTOR

SURPRISING WORDS FROM MY DOCTOR

When talking with the doctor about my next visit, he instructed, “If you have to wait more than 15 minutes, you have my permission to leave!” Have you ever in your lifetime heard that? What a pleasant surprise!  I sat in amazement at this unexpected statement. As I reflected on the doctor’s words, my heart lightened realizing that I was a priority. A smile crept across my face knowing that my time, energy and schedule took on some importance. * This same feeling of jubilation must be shared by those experiencing random acts of kindness like pulling through the drive up window for your latte and giving the barista an extra $5.00 for the car behind you. * At the check out line at the grocery store my dad would see a construction or migrant worker getting his lunch, sandwich, chips and drink. Without hesitation, my father would put it on his charge. Yes, we feel a sense of wonder, a feeling of connection, and a sense of awe at being caught off guard, when someone’s thoughtfulness “makes your day!” *Let’s remember that this is the Season of wonder, miracles, and reaching out. *Let’s spread the “awe” of these holidays by making others feel special. Prompt yourself with the question, “how can I serve?” Look for ways to relate, respect, and revere each other. To go “above and beyond” the ordinary doesn’t take much. Keep your money in your pockets, a mere smile and “hi” goes a long way these days. Walk through the mall and make a point to look people in their eyes, smile, and say “hi’....
Survive the Guilt-Ridden Holidays with the “5-Word Prayer”

Survive the Guilt-Ridden Holidays with the “5-Word Prayer”

‘Tis the season for pleasing and perfecting…. We shop to fulfill every wish. We bake everyone’s favorite dish. We decorate trees and string lights. We sign cards and mail seasonal greetings. We light candles, recite prayers, and attend services. But so much of our behaviors often come from two desires: to please others and to create perfection. Let’s look at pleasing others. In the holidays, we find ourselves caught up in trying to please others by joining in the merriment of the season. We do our best to create the best holiday ever with all the trappings of the season—food, gifts, parties, and decorations. But amid all the gaiety, we can push far beyond what’s good for us. Likewise, we strive for perfection with the perfect tree, the perfect gift, the perfect holiday outfit, and, of course, the perfect family. We have high expectations for others and for ourselves. Cultural traditions, religious responsibilities, and family expectations just add to the list of things that must be perfect. Struggling to please others and be perfect often turns a joyful holiday season into a burden. They grease guilt-driven behavior into high gear during the holidays. Our guilt drives us to build up big expectations and then deliver on those with pleasing others and perfection. “Expectation is the root of all heartache,” William Shakespeare observed. He’s right. The holidays build up huge expectations. The expectations come with high standards of judgment. We condemn ourselves for failing to please everyone and achieve perfection. The high holiday expectations set us up for failure. We succumb to the expectations to prevent disappointment and are fearful...