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Religion or Superstition?

Does practice of religion ever cross over the line to superstitious behavior? This question hit me in the face as we were touring the old city in Dubrovnik, Croatia. Describing this particular old church our insightful guide, informed us that it was built after the earthquake in the 1660s in thanksgiving for survival. He added the key piece that everyone, townspeople and nobility, workers and ladies of the court, had to help in the building process. The thinking behind this “all hands on deck” theory, our historian added was the superstitious thinking that in order to please God every single person had to participate to “buy” favor with the Almighty. I thought how much of this superstitious thinking has trickled down through the ages. I remember promising God that I would say my rosary everyday for a week if I could pass this particular algebra test. I tried to “bribe” God into doing it my way. In church I would drop a quarter into the coin drop, in order to light a candle thinking that this ritual would give more credence to my prayers. I see baseball players make a quick Sign of the Cross just before stepping into the batters box asking for a blessing for a successful “at bat”. Do these rites and rituals really sway God? Are these practices based on superstition or faith? A real devoted faith would include two major tenets. Complete trust, God will provide the best for me, no matter what. Superstition would think that if something “bad” happened to me that it was some kind of punishment or retribution from God.... read more

The Good Ol’ Days

Do you look at the past as a long lost friend, yearning for the “good old days”? Do you pine for the days past when you physically, mentally, emotionally were at the “top of your game”, in your mind? Physically you could run miles before tiring. Mentally you could remember exactly “why” you came into that room. Emotionally you were strong with self-confidence planning for a bright future. In a restaurant recently sneaking a glimpse of the man next to us ordering lobster bisque, a fillet, baked potato (loaded!) paired with 2 glasses of fine wine, I yearned for the “good old days”. I eyed his savory meal with eyes of envy. I used to be able to eat like that, probably even throwing down a White Russia after the dinner. As these gluttonous thoughts crossed my mind, the actuality of it all hit me with a slap of reality: I cannot eat like that any more. All of those tasty morsels would challenge my digestive track keeping me up all night. The old body isn’t what it used to be. Remembering a joke I had heard years ago made me put it all in perspective. “When you’re young, you want to be old. When you’re old you want to be young. When you’re single you want to be married, and when you’re married you want to be dead!” I’m not saying that it’s a good joke, but it points out one fact: that oftentimes we look outside our present moment, present stage of life, or present time we live in for happiness. Either the “good old days” bring... read more

The Power of “One”

Do you ever feel like you are in a rut, plodding through the same thing, day in and day out? Perhaps you feel like a rat running in his little treadmill of everyday activities, responsibilities, and tasks to accomplish? It may be that those lofty goals of joyful exhilaration that you set for yourself are gathering dust in the recesses of your brain. All of your time, energy and resources are spent just “getting by”. Our lives are a gift and meant to be celebrated every single day. We need to keep our hopes, dreams, and vision vibrant, positive, and motivating. But how? We need to remember that our lives can turn around in “one”. One second, one phone call, one friend, one idea or one leap of faith can jolt us out of our ruts and move us in a whole new direction. Our entire lives are made up of small happenings, the “ones”. These “ones” are the miracles that God send us every single day with the power to change us. These “ones” are God’s invitations, or “G-vites”. But sometimes we get so caught up looking for the big events that we miss the impact of the smaller happenings. Think of how one small gesture of a phone call from a friend for no apparent reason lifted your spirits. Recall how one short smile from a person in the grocery store encouraged your own smile in return. Think of a one comment from someone that made you laugh. Relish the one new thought or idea that clicked for you really turned your life around. Sometimes in our... read more

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