Get a Grip on Reality!
Do you sometimes feel like you are missing out on the life that you want to live?
Do you ever feel depressed because you can’t accept “what is”, preventing the feeling of abundance in your life?
One of my favorite sayings is, “This may not be the cruise you signed up for, but it’s the ship you’re on”.
Acceptance is a key to happiness.
Recently I approached the “blue shirt” genius at the Apple store, getting my name on the list for my scheduled appointment. I noticed as he cheeked his ipad entering my information that he put in my personal description: “red dress, and grey hair”!
Peeking at the data input and without hesitation, I told him that I didn’t have grey hair and he should change it. To respond to his quizzical look, I informed him that I had “moon blonde” hair.
Living in “denial” works as a great refuge from sometimes-harsh reality. Leaving honesty in the dust, I live in my “own” reality. I have been “Queen of Denial” about my hair for a long time. Twenty-three 23years ago meeting my “silver fox of a husband”, Joe, he commented that we had matching hair color. What, was he blind?
Comfortable in my land of denial, I refused to concede. He pulled out a strand of his silver hair and I pulled out one my “blonde” tresses, compared the 2 and still lived in the land of “Denial”, even though the startling evidence lay before my very eyes.
So many times we do not “know thyself”, missing out on the blessings and gifts that we DO have secretly longing for something that we DON’T have. Many of us are unhappy with our overall appearance, our body shape, our facial features, not to even mention our weight. All of these judgments lead us to loss of personal and financial happiness.
What can we do? Here are 4 secrets to acceptance and self-love:
- Spin and focus: Spin the truth like from “grey to moon blonde”, focusing in what your do like. I always thought I was a blonde and everyone else in the whole world called it grey, except my very understanding hair stylist who dubbed it “moon blonde”. She sold me with that I’m not just regular golden blonde but moon blonde with hints of silvery blue. I could accept that. The beginning of the spin starts here.
- Bombard yourself with accepting statements like, “I love my silvery hair, so shiny and pretty!” “Not many people are as lucky as you to have this beautiful silvery hair!” Comfort and “sell” yourself on the gifts that you do have.
- Practice the mirror exercises. Louse Hay is famous for having a mirror on her desk, not for checking her makeup but for reinforcing self-love. She will look into the mirror with something like, “Hi there Gorgeous” or “You sure are beautiful today.” These acceptance statements build self-acceptance and self-love.
- Play positive self talk tapes in your head: Take the mirror exercise on the road with you during the day. Play your positive self talk tapes in your head. “You’re incredible!” “Your rock”. “You are the best”!
Instead of beating yourself up for not looking like the top10 models on the runway, use these 4 secrets to help you claim the happiness you deserve by accepting and loving yourself “as is”….God does.
What self-acceptance exercises work for you? Please share in the comment section.
