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Want to Start Over?

Do you ever think about going somewhere where nobody knows you and starting a new life? I found this question posed on the Internet. The question initiated a lot of conversation with almost 2,000 comments. I didn’t have time to read all the comments but the bulk being that most of the people answered yes! I was amazed at how many people wanted “out”, and even expressed it openly. Most were sharing intimate thoughts reaching out for comfort and confirmation that they were not alone. Most found themselves in the “muck of life” that we sometimes find ourselves in. Either of our own choosing or that of what fate has blown in. That’s life. Sometimes it’s difficult, even tragic. Being human brings challenging situations, but I don’t think the answer is to pick up and anonymously move out of town, even though the thought of starting over may be appealing. Wherever we find ourselves, no matter how much we think WE’VE screwed up or GOD has screwed up, there is always hope. We all have expectations for ourselves and others. We try to create our lives according to this vision, but our expectations can be dashed to the ground. But whatever the situation, it’s always an invitation. It’s an invitation to change, evolve, and move deeper into the human experience. Or we can remain in the status quo fighting, shutting down or running away through denial. The events in our lives are calls to action. We need to hold on and know deep in our hearts that God has a plan. (If we only knew the plan and purpose,... read more

What is the Sure Sign of Wisdom?

They say with age comes wisdom….not necessarily! Nothing will supply the want of sunshine to peaches unless you have the cheerfulness of wisdom. – Ralph Waldo Emerson One of the surest signs of wisdom is not the number of years you’ve counted but a display of cheerfulness.  This ever-present state of mind is not due to only pleasant and happy occasions we may find ourselves in, but because we are wise enough to know that deep down that “it’s all good”! We know that life comes at us, not in leaps and bounds, but unfolds like a treasure map. Accepting every situation as it presents itself each day, signals that we are “on track” to secure this treasure of life. One of my favorite authors, Neale Donald Walsch wrote: “Nothing is as bleak as it looks, everything is a blessing.” We need to see the blessing or the opportunity in each of life’s circumstances. In one of my workshop discussions, a woman summed this up using the word: “Blesson”. A blesson is the lesson that we are meant to learn in these trying circumstances, but at the same time is really truly a blessing disguised. Next time that you are trying to understand what in the heck is going on, searching for positive meaning, ….it just might be a blesson! I found this on Facebook and gives us a great perspective on our journey: “Life is amazing. And then it’s awful. And then it’s amazing again. And in between the amazing and the awful, it’s ordinary and mundane and routine.” So no matter where you are on your treasure map, carry... read more

Got Potential?

Have you ever been deemed with “having great potential” or voted the “most likely to succeed”? Most people would look on these comments as compliments, a vote of confidence in someone’s abilities. OK, so we’ve been given many gifts. But now what? What if we don’t measure up? Wonder if we don’t meet the world’s expectation of us? Like Charlie Brown bemoans, “Oh, the curse of great potential!!” According to our power-driven standards, if we are underemployed or, not in the fast lane of achievement there is only one reason…..we are not living up to our potential. We need to raise the bar of success by hard work. Most of the world would subscribe to this reasoning: “(Your) potential doesn’t mean shit if you don’t get off you ass and start working.” – Bishank Jhavar, Champion’s Handbook: Meteoric Guide for Meteoric Success But what happens if the road of worldly success does not hold the keys to fulfillment and happiness that makes your particular soul sing? If we strive to meet some false standard of happiness, if we live with thoughts of “someday….” “if only….” then we will never find that joy in this life. Maybe, just maybe: “If you’re happy living what some might call a mediocre life, then you’re not living a mediocre life at all.” – Mike Bundrnat Set your own terms of success, listen to your own drummer, and write your own story. Listen within to find YOUR happiness within YOUR true... read more

Shine On!

We are not who we think we are! We are not defined by what we do for a living, where we live, what is in our bank account or who people think we are. “When we’re growing up there are all sorts of people telling us what to do, when what we really need is space to work out who to be.”  Ellen Page So who are we REALLY? There is a part of each of us that is divine. There are moments when our “Higher Self” is trying to emerge through our overwhelmed thoughts. Amid the static, our divine nature shines through.  “Who we are to be” is our calling to connect with our “Higher Self”. It is simple. It is God who has always been inside of us waiting to meet us. We meet God in many ways while fulfilling our mission on earth, our destiny just being true to ourselves. On our journeys, our souls are calling us, leading us through the thicket of daily life to shine, share, and illuminate this divinity inside of us. Our journeys may differ. There are many roads to the kingdom, and not one right way to get there. As we look back on our lives we can see the subtle ways that our souls are pulling us to discover one thing:  who we really are – divine children of God. Neale Donald Walsch describes a soul true unto itself: Heaven is not a kingdom where you pay homage to someone else. It is a kingdom where you greet yourself as royalty.  It is this “aha” moment that takes a lifetime... read more

Find Your Beach

Love that Corona beer commercial reminding us of an important key to happiness – the ability to disengage. What a waste of time and energy we expend! Most of our stamina during the day is spent on things/activities that don’t really matter. We are bombarded with pressures to accomplish this, acquire that and measure up to someone else’s standard. We go to bed at night with our minds racing of yet what we need to do, feeling that whatever we have accomplished is not enough. Our poor souls are flooded with the misguided notion we need to do “more”. Why don’t we remember who we really are and why we are really here? Besides the mental ambush, we are bombarded with “notifications”. Our peace and quiet is disturbed with beeps, ring tones, chimes, horns and a host of other alerting sounds calling us to more action. Sometimes we need to take a vacation to “get away”…get away from our normal routine to put things in bigger perspective. We need some “me time” some “alone time”.  When we can “get away”, all the items on the “to do” list seem a little less important. With a travel vacation we find new surroundings, different people, and diverse milieu, we are forced out of our rut and jolted into a new awareness, like a breath of fresh air. The pressures gripping us release, our shoulders may drop and we exhale experiencing true peace. But instead of waiting for a yearly getaway, I think we need to carve out “beach time” during EACH of our busy days. What gives you peace? How do you... read more

Where Oh Where Is Love?

Love, like beauty, might be in the eye of the beholder: Love is when Mommy sees Daddy smelly and sweaty and still says he is handsomer than Robert Redford.’ – Chris – age 7 Finding the answer to this question is a lifetime quest.  We sing about it, read about it, write about it and consume ourselves in this constant search for love. Oh to love and be loved in return. Sometimes we misunderstand it. We keep confusing the cheap imitations with the real thing. Infatuation, sentimental tears, the teenage crush, passion, that warm cozy feeling – all very nice, but they’re not love. To love is to give a piece of one’s heart and not look back. Love sticks around on the good days and the bad ones. It does what needs to be done and never holds back. Love’s work is done in tiny pieces and can be done even by the smallest of us. Love has its bad days when its heart is cold and there few cheery thoughts to warm it. But even then, love does not falter and does not take back that piece of the heart that it gave away. Love’s work is never done, and its yield is never ending. Let’s give our hearts to one another and never take them back. I think maybe this child’s definition of love sums it up: ‘When my grandmother got arthritis, she couldn’t bend over and paint her toenails anymore. So my grandfather does it for her all the time, even when his hands got arthritis too. That’s love. -Rebecca- age 8 Love is giving... read more

Amazon Has Everything But What I Need!

If I could order “patience” from Amazon I’d order a double dose expecting to receive it ASAP.  I need this virtue more than ever since immediacy is so much a part of our lives.  Our lives are propelled with insta-everything: on-the-spot photos, quick microwave meals, instant messaging, immediate email notifications, urgent replies, and critical responses. We want and need everything NOW. As our impatience mounts, we whirl out of control. Impatience breeds more impatience with ourselves, and it spills onto others, and then God. We get impatient with ourselves when: We fail to meet standards. We exaggerate the urgency of immediate success. We fail to acquire what we deem we need. We emphasize what we lack rather than what we have. We get impatient with others when: People fail to meet our time expectations. (Grocery lines and fellow drivers come to mind). People fail to see things the way we do. People fail to convert from their old ways of doing things into ways we think are better. People fail to keep up with us physically. We get impatient with God: When we feel the crunch of time. God works on DST – Divine Standard Time, not ours. We think we know what is best for us. We can see how our impatience mounts until it consumes us. Instead of letting it run our lives, destroy our relationships with others and keep us from bonding with God. We need to turn our impatience into patience. Since we are all on the fast-forward pace let’s remember this advice from Joyce Meyer: “Patience is not simply the ability to wait; it’s... read more

Just Breathe!

We are not who we think we are! We are first and foremost spiritual beings. Our wonderful souls infused with our human bodies provide us with all the tools we need on this earthly journey. While our eternal souls “signed up” for this School of Life to learn lessons to be more God-like in love, compassion, patience, tolerance, etc., it is our humanness that allows us to learn. We experience all the emotions, joys and sorrows through our everyday earthly lives. We need both body and soul. Our lives continue in abundance when we keep “body and soul” together! We need connection! How do we find, experience and maintain this connection? How do we enjoy our Divine heritage, being special children of God? Our common breath may be the answer. The breath of life began at birth and continues until the last. When it’s time to “go home”, we draw upon our last inhalation, surrendering our life with our last exhalation. Our breath, that we often take for granted, allows us opportunities to find real peace. Through meditation, stillness and release we are able to tap into who we really are and why we are here on earth. Mother Teresa knew the value of stillness. Her business card read, “In the silence of the heart, God speaks.” She sought silence to help maintain and build that connection. Many of us don’t have time or capacity for traditional transcendental meditation. But we could carve out 10 minutes a day to be still and “connect”.  Quiet yourself and “watch” and listen to your breath come in and out. One breath stops... read more

Never Lose Hope

The long awaited royal wedding day arrived with thousands of onlookers lining the streets to get a glimpse of history. Amid the cheering fans, the BBC interviewer asked a woman, “What does this celebration mean to you?” Her answer: “Hope”. To this woman and many others, this marriage celebrated a union symbolizing hope. We recall Frank Sinatra’s song, “The Best is Yet to Come”.  The lyrics are filled with hope. “The best is yet to come, and won’t that be fine, The best is yet to come, come the day that your mine. Come the day that your mine I’m gonna teach you to fly, We’ve only tasted the wine, Were gonna drain that cup dry.” Hope focuses the expectation of positive outcomes. Hope clears the surrounding darkness as we seek a out way. Hope can take the worst of circumstances and turn them into optimistic recovery. Like a kaleidoscope that twists multicolored pieces of color into artistic formations, our lives become a piece of art. Hope gives us the reassurance that the jagged segments will come together to form something beautiful. Without hope we are lost. “The world needs less heat and more light. It needs less of the heat of anger, revenge, retaliation, and more of the light of ideas, faith, courage, inspiration, joy, love and HOPE. “ – Wilfred Peterson I’m sure you’ve heard the story about the woman who told her pastor that when she died she wanted to be buried with the dessert spoon from her china. This woman knew that dessert is the last course, and the best. She lived knowing that the... read more