Amazon Has Everything But What I Need!

Amazon Has Everything But What I Need!

If I could order “patience” from Amazon I’d order a double dose expecting to receive it ASAP.  I need this virtue more than ever since immediacy is so much a part of our lives.  Our lives are propelled with insta-everything: on-the-spot photos, quick microwave meals, instant messaging, immediate email notifications, urgent replies, and critical responses. We want and need everything NOW. As our impatience mounts, we whirl out of control. Impatience breeds more impatience with ourselves, and it spills onto others, and then God. We get impatient with ourselves when: We fail to meet standards. We exaggerate the urgency of immediate success. We fail to acquire what we deem we need. We emphasize what we lack rather than what we have. We get impatient with others when: People fail to meet our time expectations. (Grocery lines and fellow drivers come to mind). People fail to see things the way we do. People fail to convert from their old ways of doing things into ways we think are better. People fail to keep up with us physically. We get impatient with God: When we feel the crunch of time. God works on DST – Divine Standard Time, not ours. We think we know what is best for us. We can see how our impatience mounts until it consumes us. Instead of letting it run our lives, destroy our relationships with others and keep us from bonding with God. We need to turn our impatience into patience. Since we are all on the fast-forward pace let’s remember this advice from Joyce Meyer: “Patience is not simply the ability to wait; it’s...
Just Breathe!

Just Breathe!

We are not who we think we are! We are first and foremost spiritual beings. Our wonderful souls infused with our human bodies provide us with all the tools we need on this earthly journey. While our eternal souls “signed up” for this School of Life to learn lessons to be more God-like in love, compassion, patience, tolerance, etc., it is our humanness that allows us to learn. We experience all the emotions, joys and sorrows through our everyday earthly lives. We need both body and soul. Our lives continue in abundance when we keep “body and soul” together! We need connection! How do we find, experience and maintain this connection? How do we enjoy our Divine heritage, being special children of God? Our common breath may be the answer. The breath of life began at birth and continues until the last. When it’s time to “go home”, we draw upon our last inhalation, surrendering our life with our last exhalation. Our breath, that we often take for granted, allows us opportunities to find real peace. Through meditation, stillness and release we are able to tap into who we really are and why we are here on earth. Mother Teresa knew the value of stillness. Her business card read, “In the silence of the heart, God speaks.” She sought silence to help maintain and build that connection. Many of us don’t have time or capacity for traditional transcendental meditation. But we could carve out 10 minutes a day to be still and “connect”.  Quiet yourself and “watch” and listen to your breath come in and out. One breath stops...
Never Lose Hope

Never Lose Hope

The long awaited royal wedding day arrived with thousands of onlookers lining the streets to get a glimpse of history. Amid the cheering fans, the BBC interviewer asked a woman, “What does this celebration mean to you?” Her answer: “Hope”. To this woman and many others, this marriage celebrated a union symbolizing hope. We recall Frank Sinatra’s song, “The Best is Yet to Come”.  The lyrics are filled with hope. “The best is yet to come, and won’t that be fine, The best is yet to come, come the day that your mine. Come the day that your mine I’m gonna teach you to fly, We’ve only tasted the wine, Were gonna drain that cup dry.” Hope focuses the expectation of positive outcomes. Hope clears the surrounding darkness as we seek a out way. Hope can take the worst of circumstances and turn them into optimistic recovery. Like a kaleidoscope that twists multicolored pieces of color into artistic formations, our lives become a piece of art. Hope gives us the reassurance that the jagged segments will come together to form something beautiful. Without hope we are lost. “The world needs less heat and more light. It needs less of the heat of anger, revenge, retaliation, and more of the light of ideas, faith, courage, inspiration, joy, love and HOPE. “ – Wilfred Peterson I’m sure you’ve heard the story about the woman who told her pastor that when she died she wanted to be buried with the dessert spoon from her china. This woman knew that dessert is the last course, and the best. She lived knowing that the...
Are You a Perfect “10”?

Are You a Perfect “10”?

The crossword clue read, three-letter word meaning, “be human”, the answer: “err”. Making mistakes, missteps and errors comes with being human. Then why do we subscribe to the idea of perfectionism in so many aspects of our lives? Our culture subscribes to being the “ideal family”, having a figure rating, a score of “10”, and the man that has it all, Mr. Perfect.  Schools promote perfect attendance, restaurants and hotels are rated by counting stars and religion sometimes places a priority on saintly behavior. (We have confession for those who “err”.) Wherever we look, we are being rated and judged to a certain standard of behavior. Often times we strive and measure ourselves against the ideal of perfectionism.  But at what price? Perfectionism is a personal self-judgment. It can lead to destructive and addictive belief systems. We seek to avoid criticism, judgment and blame. We try to fit in looking perfect. Brene Brown compares this ideal of being perfect to a 20-ton shield that we lug around to protect us, but in reality it’s the one thing that prevents us from taking flight. So rather than striving for perfection we should seek progress. Not that we don’t try to be the best that we can, but when we do err, we need to put the behavior in it’s place of learning the lesson, practice radical self acceptance and move on in a positive manner. In the 1970’s there was an article in Cosmopolitan entitled, “What’s Right With Mr. Wrong.” At that time if you were not married to Mr. Perfect, raising 2 ideal children in a home surrounded by a...
Life – the Balancing Act

Life – the Balancing Act

Life is a balancing act. While I subscribe to the philosophy of squeezing all the juice out of life that I can, I realize that in some situations that I have no control whatsoever.   There are times when I have to throw my spiritual arms up in the air in surrender. I’ve said my prayers and waited for the answer, then waited some more. God seems to turning a deaf ear to my needs. After pelting God with all my pleas the answer is not what I expect. C’mon, God. It is exactly at these times that I remind myself that God ALWAYS answers our prayers. God replies in one of three ways:  1) God can say, “YES.”  This is the answer that we all are looking for! 2) God can answer “Not yet.” We have to remember that God does not deal on our time. God works on DST – Divine Standard Time. Our prayers will be answered sooner or later in God’s good time. 3) God can say, “ I have something better in mind.”This response is the tough one, calling into action our faith, trust and help. God knows exactly what we need and when we need it. God know our destiny and the lessons that we are here on earth to learn. With this knowledge and faith that my prayers will be answered, we need to shift to a different type of prayer. I call this the “Prayer of Surrender.” This Prayer of Surrender is based on four-evers: whatever, however, whenever, and forever. Whatever:Lord, your wish is my command. Whatever you want me to...
Squeeze the Juice Out of Life

Squeeze the Juice Out of Life

“The purpose of life is to live it, to take experience to the utmost, to reach out eagerly and without fear for a newer and richer experience.” Eleanor Roosevelt Yes, this is not a dress rehearsal. I’ve always said that we are not here for a long time, but a good time. We are here to delight in the world finding joy in daily life, no matter what it brings. With darts of negativity being hurled at us from all sides, oftentimes it’s difficult to live that “juicy” life.  Gravity through the years not only works physically but emotionally as well. We need to surround ourselves with positive energy providing a platform for optimism, squeezing the juice out of life. Mother Teresa gives us some wise words to remember: Life is an opportunity, benefit from it. Life is beauty, admire it. Life is a dream, realize it. Life is a challenge, meet it. Life is a duty, complete it. Life is a game, play it. Life is a promise, fulfill it. Life is sorrow, overcome it. Life is a song, sing it. Life is a struggle, accept it. Life is a tragedy, confront it. Life is an adventure, dare it. Life is luck, make it. Life is life, fight for it. Use this prayer to keep that joyful focus:  Dear Lord, Let me delight in your world finding the joy in my daily life. Let my spirit dance all the way to heaven for the eternal celebration. I know you will provide me with all I need so there’s no need for me to worry. Thank you....