Why Wait to Be Happy?

Why Wait to Be Happy?

I’ll let you in on a little secret. “Happiness is not a gift, it’s a skill.” (Secret #7 from “A Change of Habit”). We know that we cannot change what happens to us. The only thing we do have control over is our ATTITUDE toward the situation. Choose happiness, but how? One key to being able to opt for happiness entails “being in the present” or practicing “mindfulness” throughout each day. Walt Whitman penned, “Not in another place…not for another hour, but this hour.” This powerful thought centers on our being in the present moment where the happiness is. The “now” situation may not be perfect; the weather could have been sunnier, the meal could have been tastier, or the game could have been won. If you are waiting for the PERFECT service, or events to turn out the way you envisioned them, then you are missing the happiness offered to you at that moment. Actually the moment was perfect all along, we just miss it looking for something “better”. We all need to appreciate what we get in this life, after all, “it’s the best we’ll ever get!!” Alfred D. Souza shares his “aha” moment, “For a long time it had seemed to me that life was about to begin – real life. But there was always some obstacle in the way, something to be gotten through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, or a debt to be paid. Then life would begin. At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my life”. We waste so much time and energy wishing, desiring, and...
The Holy Itch

The Holy Itch

Life does not tell us what to do. We are not born with a road map showing us the way. But life does give us hints clueing us in, pulling us to our destiny. In a recent discussion, a spiritual director called these inklings the “Holy Itch”. (I loved that very descriptive term) An itch is one of the most common irritating problems. Whatever the cause provoking that uncomfortable feeling, it must be taken care of. This annoying itch cries out for relief through the attention of scratching. The cure comes with attention to the proper treatment. God uses similar tactics to get our attention, nudging us in the right direction to learn the lessons fulfilling our life’s mission. Events will happen in our life. These repercussions may be God’s Holy Itch. These prickles, stings, and irritations may be standing in the way of your true happiness. These annoyances may come from people that we need to set boundaries with, or perhaps there is an old belief that needs to be rethought. Is there an attitude putting up barriers of communication? Do we begrudgingly hoard our material possessions? Do we have to be in total control? Whatever the symptoms, we need to remove the itch, the obstacle that prevents us from attaining personal growth and strengthening our Divine connection. Just like a physical itch developing into a rash if not attended to, these symptoms will get worse until properly taken care of. Intense discomfort maybe a symptom of a more serious problem both physical, emotional, spiritual. God will get our attention one way or another. If we do not...
Tag…You’re It.

Tag…You’re It.

Remember the childhood game of tag, running to touch your friend, yelling “tag”. The tagged person being the new designated runner to go find someone else to “tag”. News flash: We did not leave this game in our childhood days. God plays this game with us every day. Each and every morning God touches our souls divinely calling out “tag” you’re it, now go spread the love. Kind of like the idea of “Pay it forward”. You’ve heard of the generous person in the drive through lane paying for the order of the person in the car behind him. Although this surprise gift is picking up the tab behind, it actually keeps the “game of giving” going forward. “A purposeful act or extension of kindness to another is never wasted, for it always resides in the hearts of all involved in a chain of love.”― Molly Friedenfeld, The Book of Simple Human Truths Cultivating this attitude is an important part of being human. We need to realize that life is much more than a strict accounting of situations where you pay me and I pay you back. Much more than “an eye for an eye”. Learning to pay it forward adds a Divine connection, meaning and dignity to our lives. Experience the joy in giving knowing that it feels good to give to others, whether we get back or not. We are happy connecting to our higher calling. There are always opportunities in our everyday lives to help. We just need to be aware. There’s the elderly person who needs help crossing the street, the person in front of...
God Always Comes Back!

God Always Comes Back!

Enjoying the warm sunshine, I sat poolside enjoying my latest read as I couldn’t help but listen in to the interactions of the nearby family. Approaching lunchtime mother announced that she was going to get some lunch for them. As mom started to leave her small daughter began to cry, “Don’t leave!” As a good mother who’s heard this before, she comforted her little girl, “Mommy always comes back.” The muffled sobs continued and so did mom. The concerned mother repeated these same words ever so slowing and more intently, “MOMMY ALWAYS COMES BACK!” The tears ceased as the import of her mother’s words sank in. Mom is merely going away temporarily. Although there may be some time alone. Mom ALWAYS comes back. The fear of separation and abandonment will now be put on “hold” with the reaffirmation that mom’s love and presence will indeed be there, if not in sight. How much are we like this small fearful child when, at times we may feel isolated….isolated from each other and isolated from God? We are communal creatures meant for interaction, communication, and love with each other and with our creator. And when this Presence is threatened we may feel abandoned, lonely, and frightened. We may even feel terrified that this loneliness is a permanent situation. But that is not the case. We have reassurances through the years from those that have gone before us. From the Old Testament, the ancient psalm 73 reminds us, “Yet I am always with you….” And in the New Testament, Matthew, chapter 28, Jesus instructs his disciples, “And remember, I am with you...
Going In Circles?

Going In Circles?

Do you ever feel like you are going around in circles, going nowhere? You can see the end point marching to the goals set out before you and still fail to see the progress. When these feelings set in we need to remember the lessons of the labyrinth. Life is like walking the labyrinth. The ancients use meditative walking to forge a connection with the divine. They followed prescribed routes in mazes to avoid the mental activity of deciding on where to direct steps. In doing so, they freed their minds to be open to another voice. Suspend all thoughts, while walking, to concentrate on feelings and whims within. While the age-old custom of walking a labyrinth supports a direct connection with the Divine soul within, it’s also a walk in faith. Just like life itself. How is life like a labyrinth? Seems like you are not making any progress going nowhere in a circle. Even though you are literally winding your way through the prescribed maze in a circular fashion, you are still, ever so slowing, making progress inward to the goal. Have faith! The narrow walking road often sees the walker losing balance falling off the to the edges. The trail ahead of you is well designed to move with forward motion, but oftentimes distractions will pull you off the path, experiencing defeat. Keep moving. Life is a game of recovery! The wind is swirling. As you progress you will face every direction with the wind swirling. You will delight when all goes well with the wind at your back and at other times battle the gales...